You’ve probably seen it before, when a plus size woman wears something revealing like a bikini, they are told they are “brave” or “daring”. On the surface this seems like a sensible statement, there’s so much stigma attached to being plus size and wearing any clothes, let alone revealing ones. We are taught to be ashamed, scared of being seen, scared of being judged.
Here’s the thing though, it isn’t, and shouldn’t be, seen as a brave act.
While it is a big deal to go against those beauty norms, and risk the judgement and comments, it is not something that should be seen as a brave thing to do by others. Because by seeing it as daring, they are saying that a plus size woman in a bikini is a dangerous and scary choice.
Jessica Kane says it really well.
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THIS WAS NOT BRAVE. I've been told how brave I am for not having a coverup, but going with out a wrap would only take bravery if I cared what others thought of me, but I don't. I spend my time worrying about things I CAN control and this day, I was only thinking about how fab I felt and how much sun I was catching ☀️👍 Things that DO take bravery? A family battling tragic illness, a mother trying to beat addiction, a person trying to break free of domestic violence, reaching out for help when you have already planned your suicide and feel like you can't breath one more day. THAT is brave. Not wearing a swimsuit at the beach. LIVE life and only worry about what really matters 💯. EDIT // can't believe the support and attention brought to this and thank you from bottom of my heart in helping spread the message to be human shouldn't be brave and to say so diminishes your value and theirs. Join in by sharing your picture with #thisisntbrave. And thank you fellow curvy pioneer @themarcyminute for taking this pic! 👉And keep up with my body diversity mission as I take over as Creative Director of Cool Gal Blue…full deets on my blog ❤️. Xo www.lifeandstyleofjessica.com
So it got me thinking…